jeffturley

I have spoken with hundreds of people across multiple financial, business and personal spectrums (MBA) and there is one word which defines this moment in history: crucible. Crucible, “a place, time or situation characterized by the confluence of powerful intellectual, social, economic or political forces: a severe test of patience or belief; a vessel for melting material at high temperatures.” Here are 5 Significant Perspectives from Resolve Lending, Inc. (5SPRL) as we walk together through our crucibles.

1. A crucible is a place where I ask the essential questions of life: Who am I? Who could I be? These are the moments in life where I meet myself. Make sure to consciously “stay in” the crucible long enough to meet yourself and extract meaning.

2. Blame game, emotional detachment, anger, fantasy, and busyness are often characteristics of an unwillingness to walk deeply into my crucible.

3. As I have traveled through my crucibles I find it easy to hide them. Leaders/parents often have to fake it to be the optimist of hope, but these moments wear a person out. Find a place to be authentically honest about your crucible. Optimism is essential, but too much is often a defection.

4. As my industry purifies itself in its crucible, one of my loan officers walked in my office and said, “Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better.” I’ve repeated this often by saying “don’t wish it were easier, become better.” Being better is a journey of honesty, resolve, and focus. Some days I get it right ….other days… not so much!

5. I’m learning to guard against “catastrophizing” my crucibles. In other words, keep crucibles in their proper perspective. Recently, when my daughter was diagnosed with cancer a wise friend said, “Jeff, you now must learn ‘the discipline’ of living in the moment. Don’t live in the what if’s.” The diagnosis ended up being incorrect, but it allowed me to peer into the window of an incredibly difficult crucible.

As many of you know my industry is right in the middle of a crucible. We are all in this together. If you are wondering what to do please do not hesitate to email or call. If you are struggling with what you hear and need an extra voice - I’m around.

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Jeff